Now that we have seen that every person has a negative believe; we were all taught that we are wrong. Some of us have got this feeling deeper and stronger baankorn than others. Some people have a stronger negative feeling about himself but every person does have it. We have also seen that nobody is born with this feeling. We were all born as a spontaneous baby. But because of our upbringing, raising, we were taught what is right and what is wrong. This created our identity. Now back to you;
You used to be born as a baby, pure and spontaneous. In that case your parents, or the people who raised you, rejected the behavior that in their eyes was wrong. Then you felt the pain of being rejected. And your conclusion was; I’m bad, I may not be spontaneous. And as a reaction you stopped being spontaneous. This doesn’t happen conscious, it’s a psychological mechanism. Wanting to be spontaneous is being held back by the fear of denial.
And because you are blocking your spontaneousness yourself you are in fact rejecting yourself. So the negative belief in yourself is in fact a protection mechanism up against the pain of being rejected. So in many ways and many situations you feel yourself incompetent, not good enough, weak, stupid or whatever you decide to may call it. In fact, you turn down yourself. Every person has got the emphasis in another way; Some would say I’m ugly, Others I’m weak, or I’m stupid, I’m not worth it. Now what has a negative believe and self denial to do with gaming addiction? I bet you don’t want to know that you have a damaging believe.
Believe me, everybody does have it. Let me explain the text with gaming addiction. Or maybe ‘addictions’ in general. Maybe you have heard before that an addiction is a vicious circle. Well this is the vicious circle of gaming addiction; When we discuss a real gaming addiction the person does have a strong unhappiness together with life and with himself. There is a strong need to escape from this dissatisfacting life; an urge to excitement and sensation! During gaming a rush of excitement is generated. The excitement of winning! Only if you are winning….
And there is always the inner conflict; Fear of losing (to go with the impression of being stupid, weak, etc. ) opposite a strong desire to win (to go with the impression of success, being good, being special, being a winner, etc. ). Can you image that the higher the position, the higher and more intense the worries is? How stupid do you feel when you have lost! And then you want to get rid of that stupid feeling…. This is why you start that next position. Just to get back that feeling of success.
What the results are when you win? For a short while you feel the excitement of winning! But this dies out away quickly because you know deep inside that it was only coincidence! And this is why you take up a new position. Just to get that feeling of success again. Do you see the vicious circle of the addiction? Do you see the Deeper Cause of Gaming Addiction?